I just want to preface this by saying I am appalled by some of things both prospective adoptive parents and adoptive parents say on public forums. I also want to make clear that I am not certainly not referring to all adoptive parents, in fact there are quite a few on the forums that “get it” and truly want to educate themselves. They are a breath of fresh air in an online world choking on adoptoraptor farts.
It is one thing to have secret adoptoraptor thoughts, but quite another to feel like these types of things are okey dokey and should be the norm. And so, without further adieu….
If you use the term, “our birth mother”…you might be an adoptoraptor.
If you use the term, “birth person” when referring to your child’s original mother…you might be an adoptoraptor.
If you believe it was God’s plan that you adopted your child…you might be an adoptoraptor.
If you support legislation that would make it illegal for a minor to raise their own child…you might be an adoptoraptor.
If you have ever considered keeping your child’s adoption a secret…you might be an adoptoraptor.
If you promised open adoption to an expecting mother and proceeded to immediately close it as soon as the adoption was finalized…you might be an adoptoraptor.
If you support the current practice of keeping original birth certificates sealed…you might be an adoptoraptor.
If you support the current practice of legally ficitionalizing birth certificates…you might be an adoptoraptor.
If a child’s birth father comes forward and exercises their right to raise their child and you decide to drag this out in the courts instead of doing the right thing by returning his baby to him…you might be an adoptoraptor.
If you hand out adoption business cards to young looking expectant mothers on the street…you might be an adoptoraptor.
If you believe that you were called by God to adopt…you might be an adoptoraptor.
If you refer to an expectant mother as a birth mother and refer to their unborn child as your baby…you might be an adoptoraptor.
If you refer to adult adoptees and/or first mothers as angry and bitter if they have a differing viewpoint…you might be an adoptoraptor.
late addition but
If you troll for babies on Craigslist…you might be an adoptoraptor
If you believe that the current adoption industry is fine as is…you might be an adoptoraptor.